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The crisp air surrounded her, capturing her very being.  Trapped in the tundra of her cold, empty space of existence, she shuttered and chattered there in the open field, the remote woods seemingly miles away from her gaze.  No one would come to get her.  No one would even know she was there alone, so isolated; her rescue was unforeseeable.  Her limbs trembled as she stumbled over the rocky earth beneath her footsteps; her eyes grew weary and began to slowly close with exhaustion.  She couldn’t take one more step toward the wooded space of protection.
winter2.jpgKnees buckled as she collapsed there, the wind scraping against her once-upon-a-time pure princess flesh.  The lines on her face now showed the hard rough edges that she had endured through the barrenness of her life.  Lips cracked and torn like paper, her mouth longed to find refreshment and nourishment.  The feeling had long…

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Dear Susie from Al-Anon…

personalboundaries2Dear Susie,

It’s been almost a week since the incident in our Al-Anon group.  I’ve spent many hours praying, meditating and tapping to relieve myself of the trauma caused by your actions during our weekly meeting.  It’s important for my own recovery that I become extremely clear on my thinking surrounding this incident as well as the motivation that prompts me to speak up.  I’ve been haunted by the occurrence and my resulting reactions.  Knowing myself well as I do, I work hard to clear these issues before speaking.  It has been and will continue to be the best approach for me, to think before I speak.

But now, at this moment, I’m crystal clear on most of my emotions surrounding this and am ready to speak.

(In accordance to Al-Anon protocol, the members in this story remain confidential.  I only identify them by first name and do not reveal…

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Getting Over A Narcissist By Dissolving The Stranglehold of Cognitive Dissonance

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I bet you have asked yourself this question at least ahundred times, “why is it so hard to get over the narcissist in my life?” It probably doesn’t make much sense to you why you’re struggling so hard to move on from someonewhose rap sheet ofwrongdoings toward you is a mile long. It should be easy to let go of someone who has caused you so much pain… right? Well, not really when you understand the interplay of factors that contribute to the concept of cognitive dissonance.

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The Timing And Motivation Behind Why Most Narcissists Discard Their Partners

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Why do narcissists seem to pick the worst possible times to discard their partners? Are they really that cold-blooded that they not only break-up with you, but also plan to do it at a time that would add insult to injury? What would motivate a narcissist to hurt someone they professed to love so much in such a heartless and brutal manner?

I have heard many stories of narcissists dumping their partners right before a major holiday, or on their partner’s birthday, or after their partner shared something very personal. I’ve also heard of narcissists ending relationships right before a special planned event, or when their partner was down on their luck, grieving the loss of a loved one or even diagnosed with a serious illness. The list of heartless, cold and calculating ways that narcissists end relationships continues on and on.

It is not your imagination. Indeed, it is…

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The Reason Why Most Narcissists Hate The Holidays

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As the holiday season draws near, many of us get into the “holiday spirit” with anticipation. The end of the year brings a hectic pace with it as people celebrate joyous occasions like Thanksgiving with loved ones, then quickly start planning and preparing for the festivities of Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzaa, topped off by ringing in the New Year on New Year’s Eve.

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Your Parents Made a Boo-Boo

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Whether the ignoring or engulfing variety, narcissistic parents know no boundaries. Their little living appendages (children) become the perfect solution to mitigating their insatiable need for narcissistic supply by serving the function as captive sources of endless supply. Lenora Thompson guest blogs today about engulfing narcissists and I couldn’t be more thrilled. As a blogger for the Huffingon Post, she humorously and candidly depicts the toxic interpersonal dynamics that rule, and often ruin, family relationships. Lenora spent 30 years in a family that she describes as a bunch of “lu-lu’s” and openly shares her unique insights and wisdom on the topic of parental narcissism. Lenora’s personal story will be included in my upcoming book ,I Am Free: Healing Stories About Surviving Toxic Relationships With Narcissists And Sociopaths. So without further ado, here’s Lenora.

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